Dear New Natural Me,  Natural Hair

Dear Newly Natural Me: Information Overload is a Thing

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Dear Newly Natural Me, Ph balance, cuticles, shed hair versus broken hair, hygral fatigue–girl, if you don’t turn off your phone and go to bed you’re going to be fatigued all day. You’ve got one inch of hair and more information than you know what to do with it. I know. You just found this other naturalista and she’s got a whole series on this other technique/style/product line that might be vital to the success of your natural hair journey. Plus she’s funny and photogenic! How photogenic do you think you’ll be on three hours of sleep?

Let Your Hair Be Your Guide

When you’re just starting out, it can feel like you need to know as much as you can right away or one false move and the Natural Hair Police will bust down your door and snatch away your #teamnatural card. Relax. You’ve already done your preliminary research prior to the big chop. Now, let your hair be your guide. Is your hair dry? Moisturize it. Is it itching from dirt and buildup? Wash it. Are you losing a ton of hair from combing? Try finger detangling.

We Gon’ Focus

But should you wash with shampoo every week or co-wash with conditioner every day? And does it matter if you apply oil before leave-in conditioner? You know, some people deep condition on dirty hair. Person A says they trim only twice a year, while person B says every 3 months. Person C says whenever it feels like her ends need a trim. As Whoissugar always says, “We gon’ focus!” Tackle one issue at a time and do not change up too many things in your regimen at once, or you’ll never know what’s the cause and what’s the solution. Remember that hair takes time to grow and therefore it takes time to notice changes. So, if you want to try someone’s advice be consistent and give it a decent chance. I find that if you don’t get an immediate reaction, most products or techniques need 1 – 3 months of trial to see the results (or lack thereof).

If It Ain’t Broke

So you’ve found the maximum hydration method. Does it solve a problem you’re having? And after that you wonder if you can wash your hair with only water. Are you allergic to shampoo and conditioner? If so, by all means give it a shot. But you’re me, so I know you’re just trying solutions to problems that don’t exist. Your texture ain’t broke, don’t fix it.

There Are No Rules, Only Guides

Your hair is your guide, and therefore your hair type can be too. Following tutorials by women with your hair type is invaluable, but I wouldn’t recommend being exclusive about any hair type. No two heads of hair are identical, but good, basic hair care practices tend to work across different textures. The natural hair community is vibrant and diverse and teeming with creativity and intelligence. So long as you know not every piece of advice is meant for you, and you’re not obligated to follow any practice religiously, binge on and watch widely. You’ll come to enjoy it rather than feel overwhelmed or confused. Love, Future You Image: Article credit: PursuitOfNatural

I Am Yeka Asumah, An ordinary girl from Nigeria with big dreams. I love to write, read, learn and try new things every day. I enjoy the ability to air my voice out, expressions and being able to inspire people with my little thoughts. I hope to one day create an atmosphere where people can drop their challenges and together help solve them... I am on a journey to success and greatness. I would like for you to join me on that journey.


  • rudymariee

    Love this! I felt like this when I was trying to discover ways to care for my daughters hair. She and I have such different types of hair and so I was on every natural YT channel, every natural blog and I tried everything under the sun. Eventually I realized exactly what you said, not every piece of advice is for me. ?

  • curlsndumbbells

    Even though I’m not a new natural, I still found this blog post helpful! I started off watching tutorials by people who had a similar hair type. Then as I became more confident, I branched out and now I follow a variety of people.

    • pursuitofnatural

      Thanks for reading! You’re right. Once you are confident in basic hair care practices it acts as a baseline for judging how other regimens may or may not work for you. didn’t know many 4C vloggers or bloggers when I started so I when I started finding them it was tempting to just follow their regimens exclusively–but even 4C hair behaves differently on different heads.

  • Nurse Fred

    When I did my big chop in 2008 I had every product on earth. I followed all the natural hair vloggers (that didn’t have 4c hair like me yet I couldn’t figure out why their regimen didn’t work for me). Now, I finally have my regimen down. I wish I had read this blog when I first started. I needed someone to tell me “we gon’ focus” lol

    • pursuitofnatural

      Thanks for reading! 2008, wow that’s real early in the current natural hair movement. When many of us started, the education on going natural wasn’t as fine-tuned as it is now. I went natural in 2012–it was confusing (partly due to lack of texture representation) but I know I benefited greatly from the trials and errors of those who came before me. Just as now, hopefully, women and a new generation of girls are more empowered with the knowledge and guidance to make wearing their hair natural as routine as wearing it straight has always been.

  • Sonya

    Girl ALL OF THIS!!!! I started blogging to document my journey 4+ years ago, and while there is a wealth of information out there, you literally have to sift through it, ignore A LOT OF IT, and simply do what works for you. The end and the period. The Natural Hair Police are annoying and ridiculous and I learned early on to ignore them. Let me tell you something: Blue Magic hair grease gives me the BOMB twist outs. Yes. Grease. Now what? Do I get thrown in jail for saying, let alone using the “G” word?? DO YOU. You’re off the creamy crack – and that’s HUGE. Hair health is what it’s all about, and if you do use grease, then you know you need to shampoo well – depending on how much you use. I enjoyed this post immensely!!

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